Seven Things You Must Give to Others if You Want to Achieve Success! by Chris Widener

I just came across this successful principles twice in a week. Life that enriched others is a beautiful life.

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A major part of the process of achieving success and living the kind of life that you dream of is to give. Many people think that to get what you want you have to take it. There is a universal truth though that the true path to get what you want is to give. When you give, you get. What you sow, you shall reap. If this is true, then what is it we must give? I'll show you the way...

Give Others Your Honesty. The world we live in has a simple rule that most follow: Lie when you have to. Unfortunately, this may make some people wealthy but it makes us humans poor. To achieve success is to become wealthy not only in money, but in character. To be successful, truly successful, is to be able to attain your goals and keep your character at the same time!

"Honesty is the most single most important factor having a direct bearing on the final success of an individual, corporation, or product." Ed McMahon

Mister McMahon is right, though others will tell you otherwise. Some people will say, "You have to bend the truth to get ahead." Not true. Some of the most successful people who have ever lived were honest people.

How about you? Are you honest in all things? The problem with little lies is they become big ones. Lies spin out of control. You get caught in one lie and you lie to get out of it etc.

In all things and at all times, give others your honesty.

Give Others Your Respect. Most of the time we give people respect based on what they have done or what they have accomplished. We gauge whether or not they are "worthy" of it based on what we know of what they have achieved or who they know or are related to.

But I believe we should have a higher standard: We respect people not for what they have done or for who they are related to or for what they can do for us. Instead, we respect people for simply being.

What would happen in our world, in our company, and yes, even in our families if we started with respect for everyone else rather than making them earn it? I think we would see that most people would live up to the respect that we give them!

Give Others Your Vulnerability. We are taught to "be strong." And yes, we should be strong. But we have also embraced something that I think keeps us from having the kind of life that we long for. It is an idea that keeps us from experiencing the kind of relationships that would bring deep meaning to us. It is the idea of vulnerability.

"But Chris, make yourself vulnerable and people will step all over you!" It is true that this will happen. But I have also seen that most people will be drawn to you. They will help you. They will open up to you. You see, we are all broken people inside. We all have secrets. Yes, everyone plays "the poser" at some point in their lives, but when one let's down their veil, others soon follow - and we all win.

Give Others Your Care. Too many people are running around this old earth not caring about others. The days of "Look Out for Number One" and "Winning Through Intimidation" are over! Let's bring about a new day when we can care about others AND succeed!

Take the time to show people you care. Listen to them. Empathize with them. Love them. Now, I don't mean that you have to go around hugging everyone - that probably wouldn't fly in corporate America anyway - but we can take some time to step back from business and be human! And I have found that when we do so, our business succeeds as well!

Give Others Your Passion. There is nothing this world needs more than passionate people. And people need passionate people. Living in this day and age can be tiring. The hustle and bustle of it all can wear you down and tire you out. Give your passion to others and fire them up.

Don't just be humdrum - be excited. Give people all the energy you can muster up. And you will find that energy reciprocal. They will get energized and passionate. This in turn will fire you up more when you are already charged and get you going altogether when you don't feel like moving at all!

Give Others Your Experience. We all have areas that we excel in and they are usually areas that we have experience in. One of the things we can do to make our lives more meaningful and be of utmost help to others is to show them the way through the experiences we have.

Sometimes it will be what they should do: Shortcuts to take, people to meet, etc. Sometimes it will be what they should not do: Shortcuts not to take and people to stay away from! Whatever it is, we can be of service to others by giving them our experience and ultimately it will make us all better!

Give Others Your Help. All in all, what we want to do is to help others. Zig Ziglar says that if we will "help enough others get what they want, we will in turn get what we want." If we want to be successful, we should consider ourselves servants of other people. What can we do to help them and make them better?

If you want to live the life you have always dreamed of ask yourself if you:

Give Others Your Honesty
Give Others Your Respect
Give Others Your Vulnerability
Give Others Your Care
Give Others Your Passion
Give Others Your Experience
Give Others Your Help

This is the true path to greatness and success, not only in business but in life!

Chris Widener

從以斯帖記看預定 ：善良的以斯帖

A story of Queen Esther. Dedicated to all the godly sister. :)
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心地善良的以斯帖 :『希該喜悅以斯帖』（斯2：9）
『凡看見以斯帖的都喜悅她』（斯2：15）
『王愛以斯帖過於愛眾女，她在王眼前蒙寵愛比眾處女更甚。王就把王后的冠冕戴在她頭上，立她為王后，代替瓦實提』（斯2：17）

以斯帖的美貌，不足為奇。她從小就長得美。事實上，能被選入宮當皇后候選人的女子，有哪一個不美的？所以容貌姿色部分，以斯帖當然沒問題。但問題在這裡：美女那麼多，有多少個能做到『凡看見以斯帖的都喜悅她』的？世界上，美女不少，但是，有品德的美女，就不是那麼多。我們看看電視電影明星、主播、、、，很多都長得很美。但是，品德上，也一樣美嗎？婚外情的，時有所聞；為達目的不擇手段的，所在多有；極盡一切努力要嫁入豪門、結交權貴的，不在少數；傲氣十足的，一大堆。生得美不美，很多時候，是天生的，是上帝預定的。但是，心美不美，卻是需要自己努力的。當然，人的心美不美，依然在上帝掌理之下：上帝可以任憑你讓自己的心不美，上帝也可以激勵你讓你努力追求自己的心很美。我們不知道上帝預定的內容，可是我們知道上帝聖經的規定，而聖經本來就規定我們要追求讓自己的心地美麗，這就是上帝顯明出來的旨意，是人人都要遵守的。

『隱祕的事是屬耶和華我們神的；惟有明顯的事是永遠屬我們和我們子孫的，好叫我們遵行這律法上的一切話』（申29：29）

很多時候，聖經已經明明寫清楚了，但我們還在求問神，還在要求上帝顯明祂的旨意，這是錯誤的禱告。如果我們不肯看重上帝已經顯明的事，還提什麼屬神的隱密事呢？上帝顯明的旨意，寫在哪裡？就寫在聖經裡！聖經不讀，道理不聽，如何明白神的旨意？結果，當然就變成隨心所欲東求西求、只重感覺、連違反聖經都無所謂而已。我親愛的弟兄姊妹們，上帝顯明的旨意，都已經寫在聖經裡了。遵守這些旨意，就是我們應盡的本分。沒有人有藉口說：上帝預定我心地不好，所以我就是心地好不起來。說這種話，是為自己的行為定上罪。因為，上帝聖經明明指示了，叫你要培養自己心地好，而你自己不肯去做，罪就是自己的。

『他說謊是出於自己』（約8：44）
『各樣美善的恩賜和各樣全備的賞賜都是從上頭來的』（雅1：17）

一切的惡，罪都是自己的。一切的善，都是從神來的。因此，犯了罪，不要說那是上帝預定我、叫我犯罪的，也不要去扯別人、推給魔鬼。因為，罪都是自己犯的，不是上帝叫那個人去犯的。而我們若有任何一絲絲的美善，都是上帝來的，都是上帝給的力量，都必須歸榮耀給上帝。
有位偉大的宣教士，如此說：『一切的罪，都是我自己犯的。一切的善良，都是上帝給的』這就是歸正神學的信念。以斯帖不只長得美，心也很美。這成了一種很特殊的氣質，散發出馨香之氣，非常吸引人。所以，掌管入宮女子的主管太監喜悅她，國王喜悅她，眾人也都喜悅她。但是，我親愛的未婚的姊妹們、弟兄們，你們，有多少人喜悅你呢？有多少人會覺得你心地很美呢？當你為自己的婚姻，求神祝福；當你祈求上帝賜下另一半時，你，是否已經盡了自己本分，讓自己心地變美了？當我們盡了本分，成果就是上帝的事。能結婚，很好，感謝主；不能結婚，也很好，也感謝主。但是，當我們未善盡本分，我們如何要求成果呢？我見過好幾位未婚的姊妹，真的很美好，就像以斯帖一樣。她們不一定長得很美，但是，心裡真的很美，很自然就會散發出一種馨香之氣。很溫柔、很愛主、待人很好、、、。一接觸，就讓人覺得很舒服，如沐春風，讓人可以體會到主的愛。她們一直沒有遇見合適的伴侶，所以一直未婚。我不是上帝，所以我當然不知道上帝為何這樣安排她們獨身。也許，上帝的時間還沒到；也許，上帝就是要她們終生不婚。我自己會這樣覺得，因為她們太美好了，沒有一個世上的男生能配得上她們的美，上帝為了疼愛她們，避免她們被糟蹋掉，所以不讓她們遇見兇惡。因為，這時代裡，壞的男人，真的很多。

『不叫我們遇見試探；救我們脫離兇惡』（太6：13）
『因現今的艱難，據我看來，人不如守素安常才好。你有妻子纏著呢，就不要求脫離；你沒有妻子纏著呢，就不要求妻子。你若娶妻，並不是犯罪；處女若出嫁，也不是犯罪。然而這等人肉身必受苦難，我卻願意你們免這苦難。』（林前7：26-28）

是男人需要女人，不是女人需要男人。
『那人（男）獨居不好，我要為他造一個配偶（女）幫助他』（創2：18）
女人自己一人可以過得很好，但男人自己一人通常過得不太好。所以是男人需要女人幫助，而不是女人需要男人。很不幸的，世俗的觀念，卻反其道而行。大家都以為女人需要男人，沒有男人就活不下去。錯了！姊妹們！不要自貶身價，不要搞錯自己在上帝眼中的份量。沒有結婚的女人，是為主而活，是主的新娘。

『沒有出嫁的，是為主的事罣慮，要身體、靈魂都聖潔；已經出嫁的，是為世上的事罣慮，想怎樣叫丈夫喜悅』（林前7：34）
『我說這話是為你們的益處，不是要牢籠你們，乃是要叫你們行合宜的事，得以殷勤服事主，沒有分心的事』（林前7：35）

聖經中，還顯明了一件事，讓我們看見以斯帖品德的美麗。那些皇后候選人，晉見國王之前，都可以隨心所欲要求東西，而且，都可以得到所要的。
『女子進去見王是這樣：從女院到王宮的時候，凡她所要的都必給她』（斯2：13）

這很不得了。換言之，她們可以要求很多錢，可以要求很大的房子，可以要求很多美麗的珠寶首飾、、、。這樣，即使她們落選了，也還有所報償。這是很公平的交易。而且，見國王之前，和眾人一樣提出這樣的要求，是正當、合法、合情、合理的。但以斯帖竟然別無所求。

『以斯帖，按次序當進去見王的時候，除了掌管女子的太監希該所派定給她的，她別無所求』（斯2：15）

這是個慾望何等低的女孩啊！她難道不知道，這次如果不藉機趕快要求一些東西，那萬一落選（這機率可是很高的），她就會變成一無所有了嗎？她難道不知道，提出要求，是完全合法合理的嗎？但是，她竟然別無所求。我親愛的姊妹們，對照現今的世代，我們可看出這二者的不同？多少明星、主播、名模、、、，收受富商名流的高價餽贈，收得天經地義、心安理得。甚至，還會主動要求對方進行高價餽贈。天底下，有白吃的午餐嗎？收受這樣的餽贈，之後要付出些什麼東西，自己會不清楚嗎？這時代裡，援交之事，非常常見。反正都一樣，就是用身體換金錢物品而已，又沒有什麼損失，身上又不會少一塊肉，不是嗎？而且，別人也都這樣做，不是嗎？
基督徒們！面對錯誤的社會現象，面對墮落的風氣與潮流，我們是分別為聖的一群，就是不能同流合污。別人可以，不表示我們也可以。我們的身體，是聖靈的殿。豈能為了會朽壞的金錢物質，就將之出賣了？當我們為了錢，連身體、天良都賣了，那我們還有什麼不能賣的呢？豈不像猶大為了三十兩銀子，就將愛他的主賣了一樣？以斯帖的美貌，不僅是外在，也包括內在。這種內外均美的美貌，讓她能在一大堆的角逐者中，脫穎而出，當上皇后。在這裡，我們又清楚看到上帝的預定：以斯帖能決定國王挑她當皇后嗎？不能！國王事先知道以斯帖會雀屏中選嗎？不知！假如以斯帖見王那天講錯話呢？假如以斯帖見王那天表現不佳呢？她只有一次機會，沒有第二次。如果那次見面，國王不滿意，她就再也沒機會了。每個國王喜好不同，環肥燕瘦，各有所好。以斯帖能掌握國王的喜好嗎？萬一國王喜歡肥的，而以斯帖是瘦的，那她就會落選。萬一國王喜歡瘦的，而以斯帖是肥的，她也會落選。這些，都不是以斯帖能掌握的。事實上，以斯帖事先只能盡她的本分，努力建立一個好品德而已。之後的成果會如何，並非她所能掌握。
這是預定論很重要的觀念：人要盡本分，成果交給上帝決定。在這件事上，我們又看到上帝預定與人的努力，那種美妙的協調與一致。

我親愛的弟兄姊妹們，預定論絕不是讓人懶惰的藉口，而是讓人積極進取、善盡本分，然後安心在主懷裡，相信上帝帶領的預定。在以斯帖品德美好的部分，我們重申預定方面的一些重點：
1. 人的美醜，天生注定。但人的品德，是自己可以努力的。
2. 人的努力，並未與上帝的預定矛盾。
3. 上帝的預定，常是封閉的。我們只能盡本分、勤努力，成果就交給上帝決定。
4. 上帝顯明的旨意，都寫在聖經裡了。不肯遵守聖經，卻誇談或追求上帝隱密的旨意，是錯誤的行為。
5.一切的罪，都是我自己犯的。一切的善良，都是上帝給的。

小小羊

Praying Mode

I am in praying mode these two weeks. Basically fast and pray for these few things :

a) Lost sheeps of the church

b) MNC heart preparation and members who attend the MNC

c) Next year ministries activities, ideas and focus

d) Spiritual atmosphere of the church

e) New ministry house

Let's us respond to Pastor message to fast and pray for MNC. I am looking forward God creative miracles in our people life. Yeah !!

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亲爱的教会，赞美神，还有十一天我们就要前往在吉隆坡举办的第十四届全国/环球大会。当我们为这盛会倒数，让我们为之祷告：

1. 筹委团
当筹委会忙于为盛会预备，让我们在日常祷告中纪念他们。祷告吉隆坡希望教会将会成为所有来自众希望教会的祝福和鼓励。让我们以祷告支持他们，如同摩西，亚伦和户珥以祷告支持约书亚和以色列军队（出17:8-13)。

2. 盛会
鼓励我们的人为这场盛会的成功禁食祷告。让我们祷告这常年的聚会将会作为我们许多人生命的转捩点，特别是捕捉我们运动的异象。

3.人
召集我们的人为神通过这场盛会触摸他们的生命而祷告。在关怀小组，单位会议，家庭祷告会等等聚会中祷告。

最后，我们想要回应摩西牧师从诗篇50：15的劝勉：
诗50: 15 并要在患难之日求告我，我必搭救你，你也要荣耀我。
当我们呼求神，他就会帮助我们，使他的名得荣耀。
一切荣耀归给神。

计翔牧师夫妇

信息

刚刚才为两个没有来教会一段时间的弟兄和姐妹写电邮，另再付上每周的牧师信息。这是我每一周都会做的事，已经成为每周必做之事。目地是要与他们保持联系和让他们知道我们生活的点滴。我对神很有信心，他必会行他奇妙的作为，叫那迷失的羊儿回到他那里。

路加福音 15：4-5
你们中间谁有一百只羊，失去一只，不把这九十九只撇在旷野，去找那失去的羊直到找着呢？
找着了，就欢欢喜喜地扛在肩上，回到家里。

Number Doesn't Matter

Only six of us in tonight prayer meeting. The Lord spoke to me number doesn't matter so much. The important is the heart of the people in prayer. The peace of the Lord reigned in my heart immediate after God spoke to me. I saw angels dancing during our praise and worship time and when we start to pray it was like a lot of people were praying. The prayer sound was loud and clear. The Lord said take time and wait in my presence, I will start to do mighty and wonderful things soon.

God is in our midst during the prayer meeting just now. Lord, may You give our people a desire to connect with You and reaching Your heart. Amen !!

等待

人的生命当中有很多的等待。

等待是好的还是不好的呢？等待又有它什么的意义呢?

a) 以史帖等待12 个月才可朝见国王。
b) 摩西在荒野生活了40 年才看到燃烧的荆棘，唤起了神给他的呼召。
c) 以色列人在埃及生活了430 年，神才召摩西带领他们出埃及。
d) 亚伯拉罕等待了15 年才得着第一个孩子。

看了以上的例子后，我有了新的概念对于等待 ：

等待是为了磨练一个人的品格和性格。
等待是为成就神美好的计划。
等待是为了造就神美好的旨意，而不是人的旨意。

Stop failing backward start failing forward!

John C. Maxwell new book teach us how to deal with failure. Make make someone success and achieve anything they want ? It is they are lucky, family background, wealth, greater opportunities, high moral or they have an easy childhood ?

John C. Maxwell said The difference between average people and achieving people is in their perception of and response to failure. Maxwell had learned to make failure his friend. Failure is overcome by all these steps :

• Master fear instead of being mastered by it.

• Break out of the ruts that keep people failing.

• Learn a simple strategy to success after experiencing a major setback.

Leadership expert Peter Drucker says, "The better a man is, the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things he will try." Mistakes really do pave the road to achievement.

Do not be fearful in facing the failure.

We Are Moving

In Dec 09, I will be shifting house again.

Second times for year 2009.

Shifting house can be somethings tiring.

I don't enjoy shifting house.

9 years of staying in Kuantan...

Have help me to accumulate a lot of things.

The most important things is...

I am going to miss the friends and food courts around

Jalan Air Putih and Kuantan Garden.

Hu hu hu..... I am going to miss my current housemate too....

Ha ha ha.....

As I looked into another dimentions,

Shifting house is another way to expand the Kingdom of God.

a)Shifting house allow us to touch one another life.

I thanked God for an opportunity to shift from initial ministry

house to my current house in Air Putih. It blessed me and allow

me to be a blessing to others.

b)Shifting house is a sign that shows Kingdom of God is expanding.

9 years ago, we have one ministry house. Now we have another

new ministry house. It shows new people add in and the house

is expanding.

c)Shifting house challenge our comfort zone.

Moving into another empty ministry house really challenge our

faith to trust Him as our provider. New ministry house is totally

empty. No furniture, no curtains, no WIFI, no chairs, no table,

no washing machine...etc. It also far a bit from our working place.

There are a lot of things need to invest. We plan to fulfill basic

needs first before investing in other facilities.

d)Shifting house make us to depend on God

It another new environment, new chapter in another house,

there is still uncertainty in some here and there. But we are

going to trust God for good.

Soon, in dec09, my new chapter of life in a new ministry house is going to begin.

Trusting the Lord for another fruitful year ahead !!

Character Qualities - By John C. Maxwell

Why do some people consistently inspire others to follow their lead? According to John C. Maxwell, it is the “character qualities” they possess. In The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader, he identifies these top traits and then defines them in ways that readers can absorb and utilize.

So what are the 21 indispensable qualities? They are listed below:

1. CHARACTER: Be a Piece of the Rock
2. CHARISMA: The First Impression Can Seal the Deal.
3. COMMITMENT: It Separates Doers from Dreamers.
4. COMMUNICATION: Without It You Travel Alone.
5. COMPETENCE: If You Build It, They Will Come.
6. COURAGE: One Person with Courage Is a Majority.
7. DISCERNMENT: Put an End to Unsolved Mysteries.
8. FOCUS: The Sharper It Is, the Sharper You Are.
9. GENEROSITY: Your Candle Loses Nothing When It Lights Another.
10. INITIATIVE: You Won’t Leave Home Without It.
11. LISTENING: To Connect with Their Hearts, Use Your Ears.
12. PASSION: Take This Life and Love It.
13. POSITIVE ATTITUDE: If You Believe You Can, You Can.
14. PROBLEM SOLVING: You Can’t Let Your Problems Be a Problem.
15. RELATIONSHIPS: If You Get Along, They’ll Go Along.
16. RESPONSIBILITY: If You Won’t Carry the Ball, You Can’t Lead the Team.
17. SECURITY: Competence Never Compensates for Insecurity.
18. SELF-DISCIPLINE: The First Person You Lead Is You.
19. SERVANTHOOD: To Get Ahead, Put Others First.
20. TEACHABILITY: To Keep Leading, Keep Learning.
21. VISION: You Can Seize Only What You Can.